Chronic Illness: Disappointment and Letting People Down

Apologies for the radio silence. The last month or so has been difficult health wise. As such, I thought it would be worth writing about chronic illness and how it can affect your social life. Not only is it disappointing to miss out on things that you’ve been looking forward to, but it’s such a horrible feeling to let people down. Frustratingly, I find that one of my most used phrases is ‘Can we reschedule?’ and I’ve certainly been having to use it a lot recently.

The weekend just passed was a close friend’s hen do. I’d been looking forward to it for months and had been excited that it was getting closer. Unfortunately, last week I got tonsillitis and as such the rest of my body joined in with various other symptoms, causing me to be bed bound. When one thing goes wrong, everything else goes wrong too.

I was completely gutted to have to miss it – I really wanted to be there to celebrate with my friend and to get to know the other bridesmaids. I felt awful for not being there and letting my friend down, especially as the lovely Maid of Honour had really gone out of her way to make sure that everything was accessible for me (at a previous hen do, the bride forgot to tell the MoH that I was in a wheelchair, so I couldn’t join in with most of the activities, which sucked).

No-one wants to be the unreliable friend who cancels at the last minute, and I fear that that’s me. Of course my close friends understand – they know what it’s like for me. But do others understand? Do they just think I’m flaky or lazy? I always try to give people enough notice so that it doesn’t inconvenience them, but sometimes I convince myself that I’ll be fine, and then reality only hits the night before (or even on the day) that I won’t be. It’s quite a tricky situation to navigate.

What are your thoughts and experiences? I know that anyone with a chronic illness will have to face these issues regularly.

Anyway, I’ve had to cancel everything this week to try to get better but I’m really hoping that I’ll be ok by the weekend. Next Monday is mine and Jakob’s seven year anniversary, so the plan is to celebrate on Saturday. Fingers crossed that things will be more under control by then!

Thea xxx

 

DIY Faux Marble Clock

Here is my first tutorial! Apologies for the lack of photos… I hope it is still useful!

I made this clock a few weeks ago and I am pleased to report that I am very chuffed with it. It is sitting very happily on the wall in our bedroom, hooray! It is scandalously easy, involving cardboard and contact paper. That pretty much tells you how to make it(!), but read on anyway for more details.

SUPPLIES

– thick(ish) cardboard (size wise, you’ll need enough to draw around a dinner plate)
– marble contact paper (easily found on Amazon)
– clock mechanism (mine was from Amazon)

TOOLS

– x-acto knife
– scissors
– cutting mat
– pencil
– ruler
– dinner plate (to draw around)

STEPS

1. Draw around the dinner plate with a pencil onto your cardboard.

2. Cut out the circle using an x-acto knife. Make sure you have your cutting mat underneath!

3. Stick your cardboard circle to the contact paper, and then trim the contact paper so that there is a border of about an inch or so.

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4. Make little snips into the border and then fold the pieces over the edge tightly.

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5. Find the centre of your clock and mark it on the back with a pencil. Pierce through this and use your x-acto knife to cut a little hole, big enough to fit your clock mechanism through.

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6. Attach the clock mechanism. Add small pieces of cardboard if need to give more depth.

7. Hang it on the wall and you’re done!

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Ta da!

Let me know what you think 🙂

Thea xx

 

A Week in the Country

Last week I went to visit my Mum in her new home in Kent. She lives in a lovely little hamlet called Conyer, which pretty much just has a pub and a sailing club (Conyer Creek flows into the River Swale).

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My poor Mum has been poorly for a while now and is still trying to battle off a nasty bug so it was generally a very chilled out week. I took the opportunity to rest and catch up on some cross-stitching. Thankfully the weather was beautiful and so I was able to relax in the garden and finally get some sun.

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My brother, Rich, came to join us on Thursday, so a fair amount of take away was consumed and movies watched! On Friday a couple of my Mum’s friends came to stay, which ended up in us having a lovely meal at the local pub – The Ship.

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The weekend was absolutely wonderful as Jakob drove down late on Friday night after work, so that we would have as much time together as possible. He is such a gem. On Saturday, we were once again blessed with good weather, so after a lovely lie in, we skipped off to Faversham to visit the market.

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Faversham is just the most adorable market town that happily happens to be only a short drive from Conyer. After eventually finding somewhere to park (we cleverly left the Blue Badge in Mum’s car!), we eagerly made our way to the market place to explore the stalls. I discovered that they have an amazing range of fabrics there, so naturally spent all of my money on pretty patterns for future projects! There was lots of tasty food on offer, so we indulged in a delicious Madagascan lunch from one of the stalls, before heading off to Standard Quay. There are several antique and vintage shops there, so naturally I checked them out for any bargains. We also decided to get ourselves a cute little olive tree to put on the balcony. This was followed by ice creams in the sun by the boats… it was utterly gorgeous.

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Once we got back to the house, we spent the rest of the day relaxing in the garden. In the evening Jakob kindly treated me to dinner at The Ship, where I appear to have now become a ‘regular’. The food was wonderful and it was so special to have that time together. Jakob has only recently finished studying part-time, which he was doing on top of his full-time job; so it suddenly feels like we have so much more time together now that he doesn’t spend his weekends in the library!

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Sunday morning called for a cooked breakfast so we once more headed down to The Ship. It certainly set us up for the day, thankfully, as the journey back was rather brutal. Fortunately we left relatively early so we didn’t get back too late, but the afternoon and evening was consequently spent resting at home!

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I’m so pleased that I was able to do so much. Unfortunately I have been dislocating my shoulders a lot more often, but generally my energy levels have been pretty good so that’s nice! Now I’m spending my week recovering, so that hopefully I can have another fun filled weekend ahead…

Thea xx

Being in a Wheelchair… and Getting Fat

I’ve been in a wheelchair since June 2014 and one of the things I’ve found hard to get used to is putting on weight. Annoyingly my appetite hasn’t changed, but my levels of activity have. It might seem silly to some to be bothered by this, in the grand scheme of things, but it’s just something I still haven’t really adjusted to.

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It is SO easy to put on weight. You don’t realise how much exercise you do just by being able to walk, until you can’t do it anymore. Of course, it makes sense that if you have an entirely sedentary life that you put weight on more easily, but I felt like I had a very sedentary lifestyle in the few years before using a wheelchair anyway. However, even just walking to the loo or to the kitchen all makes a difference!

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I know that tons of people battle with their weight who are not in wheelchairs. I just wanted to write about it because it is something that I really noticed changing whilst adjusting to my new way of life. At first it really snuck up on me and it’s just a frustrating thing to have to deal with in addition to all the other things that inevitably change.

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Anyway, thankfully, I’m happy with my body and its shape. I just need to keep it in check to make sure I don’t get toooooo cuddly!

Thea xxx

DIY Week

Last week I got pretty excited about trying out new DIYs. I love a good DIY. I find it so satisfying to create something myself, even if it is incredibly simple! I often have ideas floating around in my head but rarely actually get around to doing any of them. So last week was very productive for me. I’d really like to put together some tutorials for them but I think I’ll need to get better at taking photos before that happens! Anyway, here is what I got up to…

DIY Gold Leaf Mugs

These were inspired by the mugs created by Fran from Fall for DIY. I love her blog and you should definitely check it out for lots of DIY fun!

Here’s a photo of the mugs I made for me and Jakob. We were watching Deutschland 83 at the time… which by the way is AMAZING.

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DIY Chalkboard

I’m really pleased with this. I found an old mirror at an antiques shop and it was looking pretty worse for wear. However, with just a little cleaning and sprucing up with the use of spray paint and chalkboard paint, I don’t think it looks too bad!

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DIY Faux Marble Clock

I’d been meaning to try this out for a really long time. I recently got myself some marble contact paper and I’m in love. I’ve wanted to get a clock for my bedroom for ages, so in the end I decided to make one. Obviously it would be lovely to have a real marble clock… but this one still looks lovely and only cost a few pounds so I’m very happy with it! I’ll definitely try to get a tutorial done for this.

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So those were last week’s DIYs! Now to find some to do this week…

Thea xxx

Hello!

Hello!
So I’ve decided to start a blog. I thought it would be fun to document what I get up to and to share my crafty endeavours. I am totally in love with all things DIY and have lots of things I want to try out! At the moment it’s only basic things like painting furniture and other items (I have recently discovered the awesomeness of spray paint, so there’s that) but hopefully I will improve and move on to more complex projects as time goes on. I’ve also just started knitting – I knitted a scarf for Jakob (my better half) for Christmas and have now moved on to knitting a blanket which I fear may take the entire year to complete…we shall see!

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I live in London with my wonderful boyfriend Jakob and our two gorgeous black cats, Zulu and Xerxes. I basically spend all my time with them so am slightly obsessed. They are my furry babies!

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I’m in a wheelchair so I plan on reviewing places that I go to just in case it helps someone else if they are thinking of going there and want to know what the accessibility is like. Also I just think this is something that places should be aware of and a lot of them really aren’t. I want to make sure that I remember those that were really great and helpful!

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Anyway, I hope you enjoy reading my musings and feel free to comment and get in touch!

Thea xxx